It’s very interesting to watch twins grow up. In a nutshell Jennifer the older twin is an African Violet. Johanna the younger twin is a shrinking violet. Truth. But where Johanna shies away from the public eye, she makes up in love for her family. She is one of those people who love to be around her family and that’s enough for her. High school  not withstanding, Johanna made very few waves. That’s just not her personality. When something happened or she became more of an extrovert, it was because I insisted on it or she was with her sisters. 

Her  mindset for many years was that of a young child. What I mean by that is she argued vehemently with a 6-year old and she was 14. You would have thought that they were two grown women arguing. It was so funny. She saw nothing wrong with arguing with her 6-year old cousin. So, she was baby-like in those matters. Another aspect of Johanna is that more than any of the other children, she knows her daddy well. She can understand what’s in his mind. She’s been able to do that since she was about 6 years old herself. Johanna had a simple wisdom then and she has a much more mature wisdom now. She hangs onto every word that daddy says:

Johanna: Mom, my ponytail came out at school today (she was about 10 years old) and the other kids laughed at me.

Me: Oh that’s not nice. I am so sorry.

Johanna: That’s alright Mom, because Dad says that when people laugh at you and make fun of you they will be laughed at, too.

Nuf said.


Daddy and daughter just before surgery in August, 2016

She and her dad have always been close, but this illness has made them compadres. My husband takes her to all her appointments, the pharmacy, clinic for chemo, surgeries she had to endure. He cooks her breakfast, lunch, and dinner, he calls her “princess” at times, too. He takes her food to her most of the time because she is often weak and sickly these days. She was crying once and I wasn’t home, but on the phone with her. She stopped and said, “Mom, I have to hang up. I need to go and get a hug from my dad.” I am grateful for their closeness during this journey back to health. It’s a true blessing.

More tomorrow.




Erika -eldest,  Johanna-Twin



I had the privilege of raising three girls.  I always wanted two children and wound up with three when 4 years after my first daughter was born, I had twin girls.  So now on April 21, 2016 and on April 23, 2016, they all had birthdays.  The twins were on April 21st and my oldest was on the 23rd.  Nothing new about that I know, unless you are the mother of these three girls.  Erika, my oldest turned 39 and Jennifer and Johanna, twins turned 35.

When it seems like life’s deck is stacked against you and your own circumstances sort of help that deck out, you can get uncertain.  But I believe in God and asked Him for his help. He sent me the most generous man in the world to raise them.  They are true daddy’s girls. Long story short:

  • Erika is a senior account manager with an appraisal firm and a bad to the bone business woman. (Her idol is Benjamin Franklin on the hundred dollar bill-nuf said)
  • Jennifer is a successful author with two online radio shows and she has just launched her own online broadcasting media company.  Her fifth book is about to come out on May 31st. (Pen name is Parker J. Cole)
  • Johanna has published her first book late last year and is working on the sequel to it, now.  (Pen name is Lynnette Roman)

The moral of the story a dedicated and committed parent doesn’t have to worrry about life’s deck stacked against them.  God alone will make sure nothing stops your effort.