TRIBUTE TO MY FRIEND!

It’s been a while since I blogged.  I really miss it. But running a business takes time, effort, and commitment.  

Deborah MackToday, however, I’m drawn to my blog post, because I want to share with you all just a few things about my girlfriend of  more than 30 years who passed away last week Monday the 11th of February, and we celebrated her life at her home going yesterday, the 18th.

I remember the first time I saw her at our church.  The church she attended came to visit our church.  She had on a beautiful yellow brocade blouse and a brocade mini pleated skirt.  She was alive and vibrant and full of love.  She had a red scarf tied around the neck of her blouse, which brought it out even more.  That very day when I spoke to her she said, “Hey, let’s get together sometimes.” Well, about 33 years later I can say that we got together many, many times. She was special.  The world was a better place because she was in it. I became a better person because of her friendship. She was beautiful and remained that way throughout her life.

Even more than that, I was able to trust my children to her advice and never once wondered if she would tell them the right things or try to lead them down the wrong paths.  In fact, they did what she said before they did what I said. That was a great blessing and benefit of her friendship.  My children are all grown now. She loved young people and mentored and guided them correctly.  She was generous with her money and resources, too.

I can go on and on about her, but instead I want to wish for all of you, this new year the kind of friendship that transcends sororities, clubs, and memberships. Associations with people is an insult to a great friendship. I wish for all of you the kind of friend I had.  I pray that you don’t leave this world without having had a friend like my friend, Deborah Mack.  

If you have that sort of friend or had one, please share about them in your blog posts.  Let’s all take this year by the horns and make things better by our encouragement, wisdom, and commitment to those we love and to that sphere of influence we have.  It’s great to be back.

Love you Deb and miss you so badly.  

Rosa

 

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TRIBUTE TO BLOGGERS

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Well, I am looking out of a window as I write this particular blog and I confess that just a few minutes ago, my chest was full of anxiety and a bit of anger. That’s nothing new, because at times that happens to all of  us. I was truly full of anxiety. But just after that feeling began to get the better of me I saw a statistic online that spoke of anxiety in America and what it does and costs. Check it out:

“Anxiety disorders in the United States are the number one mental health problem among women and are second only to alcohol and drug abuse among men. Some say the United States is now the most anxious nation in the world. The land of the Stars and Stripes has become the country of stress and strife. This is a costly achievement. Stress-related ailments cost the nation $300 billion every year in medical bills and lost productivity, while our usage of sedative drugs keeps skyrocketing; just between 1997 and 2004, Americans more than doubled their spending on anti-anxiety medications like Xanax and Valium, from $900 million to $2.1 billion. The Journal of the American Medical Association cited a study that indicates an exponential increase in depression. People of each generation in the twentieth century “were three times more likely to experience depression” than people of the preceding generation.”

Wow, that really something. So, what does that depressing statistic have to do with bloggers? I’m glad you asked.  As I see it, bloggers all around the world talk about subjects vast and dear to them. There are blogs that I read which actually cause me to have a different perspective on a subject. The blogs I sometimes read help me to finish my thoughts. Other blogs I read change my point of view. All of the blogs I read have a calming effect on me, as I read the earnest words of people just like me who have problems and heartaches just as I do.  It’s at those times that I realize again that we’re all just people who through blogging voice our opinions, gets things off of our chests, help others with humorous quips and sayings or with prayers and encouragement.

So, my wish to all of us bloggers is that we can throw away some of the meds we use to just make it through the day. Let’s blog and talk about it more and then see the results. Thank all of you for what you contribute to my life. Here’s to all of you bloggers – BLOG ON! You are helping countless others like me to relax.

Rosa

TRIBUTE TO THANKSGIVING

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As I write this post, my husband is standing in the kitchen preparing breakfast for us this morning. I am thankful for that. He’s been the cook for more than 30 years now in our  marriage. I am thankful for that. He started last week preparing Thanksgiving dinner, I am thankful for that. 

My grandson is out of school the rest of the week. I am sure he’s thankful for that! He’s asleep in his bed and warm. I am thankful for that. My children are alive and doing well. I am truly thankful for that.

My mom is still here with us. I am thankful for that. My sisters and their families and my brother are doing well, I am thankful for that.

Many of you know of the hard and trying and sometimes frightening experience my one daughter had with ovarian cancer last year and part of this year. She is at work today and doing well. The doctor checked her out a couple of months ago and she is still cancer free. I AM VERY THANKFUL AND GRATEFUL TO GOD FOR THAT! She got on my nerves, too. I am thankful for that!  

I have a reasonable portion of health and strength and can move around and help myself. I’m real thankful for that. I think you get the point and I am sure that you, too, are thankful for a lot of wonderful blessings. 

Finally, remember that thanksgiving is more than just one day a year. EVERYDAY IS A DAY OF THANKSGIVING!  GOD BLESS  YOU ALL!

Rosa

 

TRIBUTES

I want to blog about persons in my life who I want to pay tribute to. I want to pay homage to these persons because they have been a positive influence in my own growth and development and somehow they have helped me get where I am today. Some of these people I know very well and love them. Others, I know about and they have also had an impact on my life. Enjoy!

My Brother: Gunnery Sgt. Roy Lee Payne, Jr. (1949 – 1980)

IMG00709-20130527-173406042013_0834Roy was the only brother for many years among five sisters. I am sure that brothers everywhere who only have sisters for siblings can relate to this situation. He was extremely intelligent and excelled at most everything he did. In fact, in 1969 just after graduating from high school he became a manager at the then Bell Telephone Company. That was a rarity for African-Americans during that time. He was an electronics expert, too. 

Roy was a boy, teen and man like any other. It’s just that as he matured he knew the direction he wanted to go in. When I was in college, and he was still in the Marines, he would send a $10.00 allotment check to me and my sister. Now $10.00 may not be a lot today, but in 1973 it bought a lot of treats for us. All of us were proud of him. He lavished my mother and father with gifts while he was stationed in Korea at that time.

He married in 1972 and he and his wife had two children. He remained in the Marines and was raising his family while in the service. Tragic was his end: He was taking a friend to work one regular day and his car was hit by a man driving drunk. My brother was killed instantly. In fact everyone in both cars including the drunk driver  was killed that day, except for one person.

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I tell that story not to sadden anyone, but rather to encourage everyone that family and friends are precious and should never be taken for granted. He was generous and doting over his family. Let’s do the same for our family and friends.

Cute story about my brother: He loved to eat scrambled eggs, toast and whatever meat he wanted, ham, bacon, etc. He would make his food and have it on a big plate. He had 4 slices of toast, about 6 scrambled eggs and his meat of choice. He’d also have a soda or something to drink. Roy would come into the living room and sit down, put that plate of his on the arm of the chair and just seconds later we would all hear him yell is dismay. The plate would fall over with all of that delicious food! unashamed, he would pick it all up, put it back in the plate and eat it all! Now,, if that happened only once, it would be an oops story, but it happened 9 out of 10 times, and each time, after he yelled, he would pick all of his food off the floor and eat it. HERE’S LOOKING AT YOU, ROY!

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