TRIBUTE TO MY FRIEND!

It’s been a while since I blogged.  I really miss it. But running a business takes time, effort, and commitment.  

Deborah MackToday, however, I’m drawn to my blog post, because I want to share with you all just a few things about my girlfriend of  more than 30 years who passed away last week Monday the 11th of February, and we celebrated her life at her home going yesterday, the 18th.

I remember the first time I saw her at our church.  The church she attended came to visit our church.  She had on a beautiful yellow brocade blouse and a brocade mini pleated skirt.  She was alive and vibrant and full of love.  She had a red scarf tied around the neck of her blouse, which brought it out even more.  That very day when I spoke to her she said, “Hey, let’s get together sometimes.” Well, about 33 years later I can say that we got together many, many times. She was special.  The world was a better place because she was in it. I became a better person because of her friendship. She was beautiful and remained that way throughout her life.

Even more than that, I was able to trust my children to her advice and never once wondered if she would tell them the right things or try to lead them down the wrong paths.  In fact, they did what she said before they did what I said. That was a great blessing and benefit of her friendship.  My children are all grown now. She loved young people and mentored and guided them correctly.  She was generous with her money and resources, too.

I can go on and on about her, but instead I want to wish for all of you, this new year the kind of friendship that transcends sororities, clubs, and memberships. Associations with people is an insult to a great friendship. I wish for all of you the kind of friend I had.  I pray that you don’t leave this world without having had a friend like my friend, Deborah Mack.  

If you have that sort of friend or had one, please share about them in your blog posts.  Let’s all take this year by the horns and make things better by our encouragement, wisdom, and commitment to those we love and to that sphere of influence we have.  It’s great to be back.

Love you Deb and miss you so badly.  

Rosa

 

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WE REALLY DON’T HAVE TIME FOR HATE!

IT AIN’T WORTH IT!  hate-text-made-from-bones_mkos0z_l

I remember when I was much younger that I hated some people who did terrible things to me and lied on me and the whole scenario. Now, for the record these people really did disappoint and lie on me and I thought that they were real good friends. So, after alienating myself from them and licking my wounds I began to literally hate them. 

It’s strange though, hate doesn’t hurt the one(s) you direct it toward. It hurts you. I became quite bitter and even lost my appetite. Well, I won that victory by learning to forgive even though they didn’t ask for forgiveness. I’ve learned through the years that hate is a waste of time. It is an emotion that takes up a lot of time that you can never ever get back. You can spend valuable, precious time thinking of how much you hate someone. It is very possible that hatred directed toward a “deserving”  person is justified. But justified or not, it’s not good for you, the hater to do it. You can miss out on wonderful, loving, caring, kind emotions because hate has filled your being. 

Really, hatred takes up so much time and clouds your reason to the point you will look up one day and years have gone by; years you’ll never get back. Years filled with hatred instead of kindness and charity stink! Consider that the next time a person or situation causes you to hate. You can choose to hate or not hate. I had to learn this lesson, and I want someone else to do better than me and don’t waste precious time hating. There’s so many others in this wide world to love on. Hey, that’s a thought. Let’s see how many years we can spend having compassion on others. Don’t wait until the new year, start now.

 

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Rosa