It was just before Thanksgiving 1980, and my older Brother, Gunnery Sgt. Roy Lee Payne, Jr. and his wife and two children were coming in from California to spend about a week, maybe ten days with all of us for the Christmas holiday. We were all excited, because he hadn’t seen some of his nieces and nephews who were toddlers and we hadn’t seen his son, our nephew, who was toddling, too. We planned a big dinner and presents galore. Cameras with film back then, were bought and ready and so were we. Roy had spoken with our mom I think the first week of November and said, “Ma, we should be there by December 23rd,” I believe. She let the rest of us know when he planned to be in town.
At about 1:45 a.m. on November 17, 1980, my doorbell rang and it was my two brothers-in-law. They had come to get me and my daughter and we all went to mom and dad’s house. When we got there, we found out that Roy had been killed by a drunk driver the afternoon before, November 16, 1980. He was 30 years old. I don’t remember Christmas time that year. I really don’t, but it still came. What I found out in the subsequent years is that Christmastime still came and families still gathered and enjoyed this wonderful time of the year. Guess what, Christmastime is coming this year, too. Take the memories of your loved ones who are gone and those who remain and treasure them this Christmas. Don’t miss the opportunity toinclude all and I mean all your loved ones in your 2015 Christmas holiday. IT’S CHRISTMASTIME AGAIN.
It’s Christmas time again and here in the Midwest it hasn’t snowed very much and in fact the streets are dry. What we have had is a lot of fog these last couple of weeks.
No matter, it is still Christmas time and it is a wonderful time to gather with family and friends. The thing that I really like about this time is that for a little while people seem to calm down and relax. It’s wonderful the acts of kindness that occur this time of year. Selfless acts of kindness that people do and expect nothing in return. I was riding down the neighborhood street and got a flat tire once. This young man came out and said, “I’ll fix it for you. He did, too. I tried to give him some money for it, I even insisted on giving him some money for it. He just said, “Oh no. It’s Christmastime. Merry Christmas”, and walked away. A wonderful spirit.
Let’s keep that selfless spirit throughout the year, even if you don’t celebrate Christmas. A selfless and kind spirit doesn’t need a holiday to show it.
I will have my 62nd birthday on December 8, 2015. I am both ecstatic and excited about another year. But can I be honest with you? I have a bit of regret. My regret is that I waited so very long to do the thing that I was passionate about. My only excuse is that I needed to be certain I could care for my family and help my husband with our daily life and trials. So, I continued to work a 9 to 5 job. Now, don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with a 9 to 5 job. My regret is that I didn’t take the plunge into my own business until later in my life. Since I did take that plunge, I have begun to realize my dream.
You don’t have to wait that long to realize your dream and have any regrets. That book or poetry collection that you’ve been writing and hiding because you don’t think it’s good enough, pull it out and finish it and send it to me. That dissertation or thesis that needs completing so that you can get that long awaited degree just needs editing. My wish is for you to see your dream of your great literary work in print. I am so excited for you. Give me a call or drop me an email. Remember, I’m here for you.